Blow jobs. I bet you never thought you'd read something like this on my priggish blog! And this is definitely not safe for viewing in public.
By "this" I mean an interview about how a woman can learn to teach herself to orgasm while giving BJs, even while deep throating (work on that gag reflex, you irresponsible woman!). The trick is to work on your thoughts, to learn sexual meditation and then --- presto! --- you can orgasm while doing something completely different! It's your responsibility to get in touch with what your body wants, after all.
If you work on it, you can orgasm while giving BJs. Or while scrubbing the floor. Or while you vacuum. There's an interesting aside in that piece to how hard the work of BJs is on your knees:
Prioritizing your comfort also might mean avoiding the typical kneel-and-worship approach to blow jobs. “One of the hard things about being on your knees is there’s only so long that that’s comfortable,” says Van Vleck.
There's nothing much wrong with that piece if it's one in a series where the next one teaches all the same skills to people who do cunnilingus on someone else. If that's not the case, my impression is that the piece contributes to the currently common narrative that sex is defined by what heterosexual men like (from porn, say) and that this is what we all should learn to truly enjoy.
I'm not ridiculing the obvious fact that one can enjoy giving pleasure to a loved one in sex, that the so-called foreplay aspects of sex can be enjoyable in themselves. I'm not even saying that a woman couldn't orgasm from giving BJs or from peeling potatoes or whatever. But there's something inherently tilted in Van Vleck's idea that personal responsibility for one's orgasms means something like nobody else having to do anything for you.